My wife is cheating on me update


G

Guest

This may be TMI to some of you; I warn you now. And this has nothing to do
with a computer problem. This is a follow up to my Jan 4 post asking how to
get into her email. To those who support and criticize me, thank you for
your comments. I told my wife there was no “us†unless I heard all the
details. We had it out last night. She confessed she had sex with this guy
twice. Both times she told me she was meeting with friends from work. She
said the sex was terrible, short, awkward and humiliating. I feel better
knowing this and that he had the decency to use a condom and not do oral sex.
She admitted it was all her idea and the cell phone records show she was the
one doing the chasing. I know I do not have the strength to say “no†to a
women as good looking as she is. So I do forgive him. Under different
circumstances he would not fair as well. She said she was desperate to find
someone to talk to and I admit I have not had the patience to be a good
listener. Kids, dog, house, job as a leader making a good living, I don’t
have the time to be there for her. Some of you said it was my fault; you are
right. I have not been a good husband. I drove her to find someone else.
She is at fault also. She has not done a good job of insisting on my
attention. She is the one that stepped over the boundary. She could have
only talked with him. This guy is well versed and a good listener. She
broke it off with him, but did not tell him I knew. This past week has been
a calamity; I have my first million but almost lost the love of my life.
Thank god for cell phone records. She said she expected me to notice sooner
or later, I would not have had she not talked to him for hours. I now need
to build my trust in her so we can salvage this marriage for our kid’s sake
and ours. I love her very much and forgive her in light of my poor behavior.
She meets all my needs and more. She says she loves me very much also, but
our interaction has to change for our marriage to continue. I understand
that, and am able to do that. She doesn’t want to go to a marriage consular
and would divorce me if she knew I was putting all this on the web. We get a
blood test in the morning to ensure we didn’t catch anything. Now, I need a
way to build trust between us and though I’ve said I’ll change my ways, I
still fear she will cheat. With her looks, there will be other guys chasing
her. Someone called her the other day about a knitting class and she had to
turn it down because it was in the town this guys lives. She wanted to take
my daughter to it, but knows I would always wonder what else is going on. I
hope this is a lesson for all of you. I don’t have access to house phone
records or her e-mail but I feel that is the only way to monitor her and
build trust between us. All suggestions and criticism welcome. Below is a
reprint of an earlier reply…….I am an engineer caught up in my job and have
not balanced work and life well enough. That said, back in July she had
someone asking around if she was married or not. Being married didn't stop
him from stalking her until it came close to me calling the head of Human
Resources at their work to have him stop. She did not like his advances.
Both of them rotated jobs and found themselves working together a few months
later. She was organizing Xmas gifts for people at work and I asked about
one of them. She said it was for him and I asked what changed. She said she
was wrong about him and he was quite pleasant. Last week I wondered my the
cell phone bill was high and
went on line and found they had many long phone conversations. I ignored it
hoping it was nothing and would casually talk to her about it sometime. I
went through her wallet looking for a missing credit card last week and found
his business card with his home address hand written on the back. I went
through her planner and found a hand written map to his house. I went
through her dressor and found contraceptives with most gone. I've been fixed
for years. I have confronted her about all this and she says there is
nothing between them. I love my wife and even if she had an affair I would
keep her knowing how easily this sort of thing could happen. She has lost 75
Lbs over the past year and is quite beautiful. I get offers at work from
guys looking at her photos on my desk. She needs to earn my trust back, but
I don't think she's coming clean. I need to know more about what went on and
what continues to go on. They continue to work together. Thanks for
understanding.
 
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Leythos

I
went through her wallet looking for a missing credit card last week and found
his business card with his home address hand written on the back. I went
through her planner and found a hand written map to his house. I went
through her dressor and found contraceptives with most gone. I've been fixed
for years. I have confronted her about all this and she says there is
nothing between them. I love my wife and even if she had an affair I would
keep her knowing how easily this sort of thing could happen. She has lost 75
Lbs over the past year and is quite beautiful. I get offers at work from
guys looking at her photos on my desk. She needs to earn my trust back, but
I don't think she's coming clean. I need to know more about what went on and
what continues to go on. They continue to work together. Thanks for
understanding.

I hate to say this, having been married for 20+ years, but it's time to
pull the plug chap. Cheating has nothing to do with the other side being
at fault - it's about honor/respect - you only cheat on someone if you
don't respect/honor them.

So, with that being said, you're always going to be second guessing her,
always going to be looking for signs, always going to wonder if you're
going to catch something......

There is no real/expected hope that she's going to stop and respect you,
so just do the honorable thing and divorce her - make sure that you keep
copies of all notes, dates/times, invoices, etc... you will need this as
proof when you go to court.
 
S

Saucy Lemon

Leythos said:
I hate to say this, having been married for 20+ years, but it's time
to pull the plug chap. Cheating has nothing to do with the other side
being at fault - it's about honor/respect - you only cheat on someone
if you don't respect/honor them.

So, with that being said, you're always going to be second guessing
her, always going to be looking for signs, always going to wonder if
you're going to catch something......

There is no real/expected hope that she's going to stop and respect
you, so just do the honorable thing and divorce her - make sure that
you keep copies of all notes, dates/times, invoices, etc... you will
need this as proof when you go to court.

If he does think it is unsalvageable. here's some advice for him:

Make sure you have the restraining order slapped on her before she has one
slapped on you. Because there WILL BE a restraining order and it will be
slapped on someone. Make sure it is her. Note that it is much harder for a
man to get a restraining order slapped on a woman than it is for a woman to
get one slapped on a man. They usually refuse to slap one on a woman but
they almost never refuse to slap one on a man .. So ..You might need to
accuse her of alcohol and illegal drug abuse and threatening you with a
weapon. If there are children say she has tried to give them drugs and
openly wonder if only it is you whom they can be entirely safe with. Get
friends to collobroate for you. If you don't get her first .. she WILL get
you. Trust me, her lawyer will tell her to accuse you of both physical and
mental abuse of both her and of any children - so strike first and make sure
the strike works.

Is she banging this guy now as you read this? Yes she is .. or she soon will
for the umpteenth time. She probably laughs at you with him. She's probably
plotting behind your back to relieve you of the house and everything else
you possess including your liberty and any rights to the chiildren. Plan
ahead, plan well and don't let on. Get her before she gets you. Read up on
the laws in your area, get support online, get a really good lawyer who is
sympathetic to you, get the support of your friends - prep them to speak
against her and make her out to be a drug user and abusive and physcially
violent. Have them express fear for the health and welfare for the children
should they be given to her not you.Gather evidence but do not get caught.
Anticpate her dirtiest worst because she will be hitting you with it - have
a trump ready .. make her look really bad and make yourself look like a
victim angel. Make her boy toy look like a cruel bastard, abusive and
irresponsible. Win. Then get on with a new life with people who actually do
care for and respect you.
 
M

Mungo Bulge

Personally I think if she's lost 75 pound over the last year, its
because of a virus or a tapeworm so probably, if you have a good
back-up, I'd just reformat and do a clean install. However, you may
want to open some ports in her personal firewalls (pock some holes in
her prophylactics) first.
That's just my two cents worth.

| Leythos wrote:
| > In article <[email protected]>,
| > (e-mail address removed) says...
| >> I
| >> went through her wallet looking for a missing credit card last
week
| >> and found his business card with his home address hand written on
| >> the back. I went through her planner and found a hand written
map
| >> to his house. I went through her dressor and found
contraceptives
| >> with most gone. I've been fixed for years. I have confronted
her
| >> about all this and she says there is nothing between them. I
love
| >> my wife and even if she had an affair I would keep her knowing
how
| >> easily this sort of thing could happen. She has lost 75 Lbs over
| >> the past year and is quite beautiful. I get offers at work from
| >> guys looking at her photos on my desk. She needs to earn my
trust
| >> back, but I don't think she's coming clean. I need to know more
| >> about what went on and what continues to go on. They continue to
| >> work together. Thanks for understanding.
| >
| > I hate to say this, having been married for 20+ years, but it's
time
| > to pull the plug chap. Cheating has nothing to do with the other
side
| > being at fault - it's about honor/respect - you only cheat on
someone
| > if you don't respect/honor them.
| >
| > So, with that being said, you're always going to be second
guessing
| > her, always going to be looking for signs, always going to wonder
if
| > you're going to catch something......
| >
| > There is no real/expected hope that she's going to stop and
respect
| > you, so just do the honorable thing and divorce her - make sure
that
| > you keep copies of all notes, dates/times, invoices, etc... you
will
| > need this as proof when you go to court.
|
| If he does think it is unsalvageable. here's some advice for him:
|
| Make sure you have the restraining order slapped on her before she
has one
| slapped on you. Because there WILL BE a restraining order and it
will be
| slapped on someone. Make sure it is her. Note that it is much harder
for a
| man to get a restraining order slapped on a woman than it is for a
woman to
| get one slapped on a man. They usually refuse to slap one on a woman
but
| they almost never refuse to slap one on a man .. So ..You might need
to
| accuse her of alcohol and illegal drug abuse and threatening you
with a
| weapon. If there are children say she has tried to give them drugs
and
| openly wonder if only it is you whom they can be entirely safe with.
Get
| friends to collobroate for you. If you don't get her first .. she
WILL get
| you. Trust me, her lawyer will tell her to accuse you of both
physical and
| mental abuse of both her and of any children - so strike first and
make sure
| the strike works.
|
| Is she banging this guy now as you read this? Yes she is .. or she
soon will
| for the umpteenth time. She probably laughs at you with him. She's
probably
| plotting behind your back to relieve you of the house and everything
else
| you possess including your liberty and any rights to the chiildren.
Plan
| ahead, plan well and don't let on. Get her before she gets you. Read
up on
| the laws in your area, get support online, get a really good lawyer
who is
| sympathetic to you, get the support of your friends - prep them to
speak
| against her and make her out to be a drug user and abusive and
physcially
| violent. Have them express fear for the health and welfare for the
children
| should they be given to her not you.Gather evidence but do not get
caught.
| Anticpate her dirtiest worst because she will be hitting you with
it - have
| a trump ready .. make her look really bad and make yourself look
like a
| victim angel. Make her boy toy look like a cruel bastard, abusive
and
| irresponsible. Win. Then get on with a new life with people who
actually do
| care for and respect you.
|
|
 
T

Tom [Pepper] Willett

ROFL! You made my day.

Mungo Bulge said:
Personally I think if she's lost 75 pound over the last year, its
because of a virus or a tapeworm so probably, if you have a good
back-up, I'd just reformat and do a clean install. However, you may
want to open some ports in her personal firewalls (pock some holes in
her prophylactics) first.
That's just my two cents worth.

| Leythos wrote:
| > In article <[email protected]>,
| > (e-mail address removed) says...
| >> I
| >> went through her wallet looking for a missing credit card last
week
| >> and found his business card with his home address hand written on
| >> the back. I went through her planner and found a hand written
map
| >> to his house. I went through her dressor and found
contraceptives
| >> with most gone. I've been fixed for years. I have confronted
her
| >> about all this and she says there is nothing between them. I
love
| >> my wife and even if she had an affair I would keep her knowing
how
| >> easily this sort of thing could happen. She has lost 75 Lbs over
| >> the past year and is quite beautiful. I get offers at work from
| >> guys looking at her photos on my desk. She needs to earn my
trust
| >> back, but I don't think she's coming clean. I need to know more
| >> about what went on and what continues to go on. They continue to
| >> work together. Thanks for understanding.
| >
| > I hate to say this, having been married for 20+ years, but it's
time
| > to pull the plug chap. Cheating has nothing to do with the other
side
| > being at fault - it's about honor/respect - you only cheat on
someone
| > if you don't respect/honor them.
| >
| > So, with that being said, you're always going to be second
guessing
| > her, always going to be looking for signs, always going to wonder
if
| > you're going to catch something......
| >
| > There is no real/expected hope that she's going to stop and
respect
| > you, so just do the honorable thing and divorce her - make sure
that
| > you keep copies of all notes, dates/times, invoices, etc... you
will
| > need this as proof when you go to court.
|
| If he does think it is unsalvageable. here's some advice for him:
|
| Make sure you have the restraining order slapped on her before she
has one
| slapped on you. Because there WILL BE a restraining order and it
will be
| slapped on someone. Make sure it is her. Note that it is much harder
for a
| man to get a restraining order slapped on a woman than it is for a
woman to
| get one slapped on a man. They usually refuse to slap one on a woman
but
| they almost never refuse to slap one on a man .. So ..You might need
to
| accuse her of alcohol and illegal drug abuse and threatening you
with a
| weapon. If there are children say she has tried to give them drugs
and
| openly wonder if only it is you whom they can be entirely safe with.
Get
| friends to collobroate for you. If you don't get her first .. she
WILL get
| you. Trust me, her lawyer will tell her to accuse you of both
physical and
| mental abuse of both her and of any children - so strike first and
make sure
| the strike works.
|
| Is she banging this guy now as you read this? Yes she is .. or she
soon will
| for the umpteenth time. She probably laughs at you with him. She's
probably
| plotting behind your back to relieve you of the house and everything
else
| you possess including your liberty and any rights to the chiildren.
Plan
| ahead, plan well and don't let on. Get her before she gets you. Read
up on
| the laws in your area, get support online, get a really good lawyer
who is
| sympathetic to you, get the support of your friends - prep them to
speak
| against her and make her out to be a drug user and abusive and
physcially
| violent. Have them express fear for the health and welfare for the
children
| should they be given to her not you.Gather evidence but do not get
caught.
| Anticpate her dirtiest worst because she will be hitting you with
it - have
| a trump ready .. make her look really bad and make yourself look
like a
| victim angel. Make her boy toy look like a cruel bastard, abusive
and
| irresponsible. Win. Then get on with a new life with people who
actually do
| care for and respect you.
|
|
 
Z

zepphead

Mungo said:
Personally I think if she's lost 75 pound over the last year, its
because of a virus or a tapeworm so probably, if you have a good
back-up, I'd just reformat and do a clean install. However, you may
want to open some ports in her personal firewalls (pock some holes in
her prophylactics) first.
That's just my two cents worth.

"Saucy Lemon" (e-mail address removed) wrote in message
| Leythos wrote:
| In article (e-mail address removed),
| (e-mail address removed) says...
| I
| went through her wallet looking for a missing credit card last
week
| and found his business card with his home address hand written on
| the back. I went through her planner and found a hand written
map
| to his house. I went through her dressor and found
contraceptives
| with most gone. I've been fixed for years. I have confronted
her
| about all this and she says there is nothing between them. I
love
| my wife and even if she had an affair I would keep her knowing
how
| easily this sort of thing could happen. She has lost 75 Lbs over
| the past year and is quite beautiful. I get offers at work from
| guys looking at her photos on my desk. She needs to earn my
trust
| back, but I don't think she's coming clean. I need to know more
| about what went on and what continues to go on. They continue to
| work together. Thanks for understanding.
|
| I hate to say this, having been married for 20+ years, but it's
time
| to pull the plug chap. Cheating has nothing to do with the other
side
| being at fault - it's about honor/respect - you only cheat on
someone
| if you don't respect/honor them.
|
| So, with that being said, you're always going to be second
guessing
| her, always going to be looking for signs, always going to wonder
if
| you're going to catch something......
|
| There is no real/expected hope that she's going to stop and
respect
| you, so just do the honorable thing and divorce her - make sure
that
| you keep copies of all notes, dates/times, invoices, etc... you
will
| need this as proof when you go to court.
|
| If he does think it is unsalvageable. here's some advice for him:
|
| Make sure you have the restraining order slapped on her before she
has one
| slapped on you. Because there WILL BE a restraining order and it
will be
| slapped on someone. Make sure it is her. Note that it is much harder
for a
| man to get a restraining order slapped on a woman than it is for a
woman to
| get one slapped on a man. They usually refuse to slap one on a woman
but
| they almost never refuse to slap one on a man .. So ..You might need
to
| accuse her of alcohol and illegal drug abuse and threatening you
with a
| weapon. If there are children say she has tried to give them drugs
and
| openly wonder if only it is you whom they can be entirely safe with.
Get
| friends to collobroate for you. If you don't get her first .. she
WILL get
| you. Trust me, her lawyer will tell her to accuse you of both
physical and
| mental abuse of both her and of any children - so strike first and
make sure
| the strike works.
|
| Is she banging this guy now as you read this? Yes she is .. or she
soon will
| for the umpteenth time. She probably laughs at you with him. She's
probably
| plotting behind your back to relieve you of the house and everything
else
| you possess including your liberty and any rights to the chiildren.
Plan
| ahead, plan well and don't let on. Get her before she gets you. Read
up on
| the laws in your area, get support online, get a really good lawyer
who is
| sympathetic to you, get the support of your friends - prep them to
speak
| against her and make her out to be a drug user and abusive and
physcially
| violent. Have them express fear for the health and welfare for the
children
| should they be given to her not you.Gather evidence but do not get
caught.
| Anticpate her dirtiest worst because she will be hitting you with
it - have
| a trump ready .. make her look really bad and make yourself look
like a
| victim angel. Make her boy toy look like a cruel *******, abusive
and
| irresponsible. Win. Then get on with a new life with people who
actually do
| care for and respect you.
|
|WHAT HAS THIS TO DO WITH XP.SLASH YOUR WRISTS AND PHONE
THE SAMARETINS....
 
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M

Mungo Bulge

now that is inappropriate

| Show her respect by blowing your load in her face.
|
| The Real MVP
|
| | > In article <[email protected]>,
| > (e-mail address removed) says...
| >> I
| >> went through her wallet looking for a missing credit card last
week and
| >> found
| >> his business card with his home address hand written on the back.
I went
| >> through her planner and found a hand written map to his house. I
went
| >> through her dressor and found contraceptives with most gone.
I've been
| >> fixed
| >> for years. I have confronted her about all this and she says
there is
| >> nothing between them. I love my wife and even if she had an
affair I
| >> would
| >> keep her knowing how easily this sort of thing could happen. She
has
| >> lost 75
| >> Lbs over the past year and is quite beautiful. I get offers at
work from
| >> guys looking at her photos on my desk. She needs to earn my
trust back,
| >> but
| >> I don't think she's coming clean. I need to know more about what
went on
| >> and
| >> what continues to go on. They continue to work together. Thanks
for
| >> understanding.
| >
| > I hate to say this, having been married for 20+ years, but it's
time to
| > pull the plug chap. Cheating has nothing to do with the other side
being
| > at fault - it's about honor/respect - you only cheat on someone if
you
| > don't respect/honor them.
| >
| > So, with that being said, you're always going to be second
guessing her,
| > always going to be looking for signs, always going to wonder if
you're
| > going to catch something......
| >
| > There is no real/expected hope that she's going to stop and
respect you,
| > so just do the honorable thing and divorce her - make sure that
you keep
| > copies of all notes, dates/times, invoices, etc... you will need
this as
| > proof when you go to court.
| >
| > --
| >
| > (e-mail address removed)
| > remove 999 in order to email me
|
|
 
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