I've been struggling with this for a while and finally managed to get it to work. What we did was secure both databases with the same workgroup ID. When you secure the first one, the workgroup ID is printed on the Security Wizard Report. When you secure the second one, it will ask you what workgroup ID you want to use. It will automatically put a random string of numbers and letters in here, but delete this and enter the ID from database 1. I then continued as normal, I haven't used the same user IDs or anything. This then let me have a linked table from one database into the other.
If you have already secured the databases you could try going into workgroup administrator, clicking create, and creating a new workgroup with the same ID as the other database?