Not exactly clear what you are aiming for.
Using Northwind as an example, you want to delete a customer, but not delete
their orders? If so, it is possible to programmatically set up the relation
between Customers.CustomerID and Orders.OrderID so it has a Cascade To Null.
When a customer is deleted, the CustomerID in Orders table becomes Null, so
it does not have the deleted CustomerID, but the information about the order
is not lost. This is only possible in JET 4 (Access 2000 and later).
If that's what you are wanting to do, you will have to create the relation
programmatically using ADOX. The interface cannot create or identify this
kind of relation. Post back if you need details.