You can eliminate most of this by doing the following:
Select Tools>Message Rules>Mail>Mail Rules tab>New button>1: Select the
conditions for your rule: Check "Where the TO line contains people, 2:
Select the action for your rule: Check "Delete it from server", 3: Rule
description, Left click "contains people", enter your email addresses at the
blinking cursor, click on Add, click on the Options button, Select "Message
does not contain the people below", click OK, OK, OK, OK. You're done.