I have two Gateway computers both running XP in this house, one for me and
one for my daughter. They are joined together by a Cat 5 wire. She can
access the Internet satisfactorily, as can I.

While I trust my daughter as she is a mature and responsible person of 14
years, I wish to exercise my parental responsibilities by monitoring her
news group and especially her Instant Messenger activities. I would like to
be able to read with whom she is corresponding and, more especially, who is
talkng to her and what is being said at the time her Messenger activites are
taking place.

Is this possible and how do it do it?

Thank you for any replies.

Geoff.

On Fri, 2 Apr 2004 12:53:27 -0500, "Geoff" <*email_address_deleted*> wrote:

>I have two Gateway computers both running XP in this house, one for me and
>one for my daughter. They are joined together by a Cat 5 wire. She can
>access the Internet satisfactorily, as can I.
>
>While I trust my daughter as she is a mature and responsible person of 14
>years, I wish to exercise my parental responsibilities by monitoring her
>news group and especially her Instant Messenger activities. I would like to
>be able to read with whom she is corresponding and, more especially, who is
>talkng to her and what is being said at the time her Messenger activites are
>taking place.
>
>Is this possible and how do it do it?
>
>Thank you for any replies.
>
>Geoff.

Geoff,

There are loads of monitoring tools available right now - and a couple simple
Google or Yahoo searches should net you plenty of candidates for doing just what
you wish. Such as:
<http://search.yahoo.com/search?p=monitor+internet+use+by+teenage+child&ei=UTF-8&fr=my_top&n=20&fl=0&x=wrt>

But consider the trust relationship you need to have with your daughter. Try
honest communication too. How will she feel when she learns what you're doing?
Any monitoring tool can be detected - given enough computer experience.
Checkout the discussions in alt.privacy.spyware for ethical arguments (don't ask
there for software recommendations!).

This has been argued countless times already, in this and other forums. I won't
attempt to repeat what has been argued by countless parents and others.
<http://groups.google.com/groups?q=monitor+teenage+internet+usage&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&hl=en&btnG=Google+Search>

And please learn to munge your email address properly, to keep yourself a bit
safer when posting to open forums. Protect yourself and the rest of the
internet - never post your address unmunged.
http://www.mailmsg.com/SPAM_munging.htm

Cheers,
Chuck
Paranoia comes from experience - and is not necessarily a bad thing.

Thanks, Chuck for the good advice. I'll get onto to it immediately.

Geoff
"Geoff" <(E-Mail Removed)> wrote in message
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> I have two Gateway computers both running XP in this house, one for me and
> one for my daughter. They are joined together by a Cat 5 wire. She can
> access the Internet satisfactorily, as can I.
>
> While I trust my daughter as she is a mature and responsible person of 14
> years, I wish to exercise my parental responsibilities by monitoring her
> news group and especially her Instant Messenger activities. I would like
to
> be able to read with whom she is corresponding and, more especially, who
is
> talkng to her and what is being said at the time her Messenger activites
are
> taking place.
>
> Is this possible and how do it do it?
>
> Thank you for any replies.
>
> Geoff.
>
>