Can't Change Icon on a Form

I copied the contact form and just made 1 change on the form so that the home
address is the default address and not the business address. I went into
properties to change the icon so it looks just like the regular "contact"
icon but there is no change big icon or small icon and I hate that push-pin
icon on my form (which just lets me know that its a changed form). Can
anyone tell me how to change this. I've published this form to my person
library.

Also, is there a way for me to use my form for all contacts without having
to got through each contact folder, right click, properties, and select my
form on the "When posting to this folder, use:"?? HELP Please. Thanks